It's often said that most difficult person to lead is yourself. Why is this? Because you judge yourself on what you intend to do while you judge others on what they actually do. Unfortunately, you have never once been successful based on your intentions.
Your followers, the people whom you influence in your life, are watching you all the time. They decide on a daily basis whether you are someone they will allow to influence them. Your guiding behaviors are demonstrated in your behaviors and that is what others see and how others decide if they will follow you.